Boundaries

If you've ever walked near the scene of a crime, you always wonder what is behind the yellow tape. Even when driving on the highway and there is an accident, you slow your car down to see how bad the accident was.

One day, on your way to work, you see a gorgeous picnic area with a little lake and beautiful garden. The grass is greener than you have seen in a long time and it looks beautiful! i mean just gorgeousssss and you would lovveee to go but there is a yellow tape around it which reads loud and clear "DO NOT CROSS". You wonder why the tape is there to begin with because that area because it's gorgeous! So anyway, you drive by this picnic area every single day on your way to work and your way back from work. With each passing day, you fall a little more inlove and a little more tempted to just go into this picnic area. Then one day, you say fuck it and decide to stop by and have a picnic! you CROSS the tape! upon walking into the little garden, you realize that underneath that green grass are little bushes of poison ivy everywhere...the beautiful garden is covered with killer bees and the lake...well you don't even want to know what's in that lake. Long story short, you begin to ask yourself WHY you crossed the tape! it was there for a reason!

That analogy might be a little far-fetched but i say that, to say this: When you create a boundary in your life, STAY BEHIND THE YELLOW TAPE! We make boundaries for ourselves when venturing out into unfamiliar territory, whether it be on campus or the dorm or at your job. The boundary serves a purpose. The purpose being that you stay away from what you don't know or are unsure about. The unfamiliar. The unknown...

The Unknown. The human mind was perfectly sculpted by The Almighty and was given many gifts. One of which, is the ability to be curious. The curiosity of the mind can be a gift and a curse...It can be exciting and scary and a sort of thrill to cross that tape...But when you do...boy, when you do, you start to wish you had driven by without looking in the first place. Sometimes when you cross that line, there is no going back! you're stuck with poison ivy that burns like a mutha!

Anywho, when someone tells you NOT to pursue a guy you think is attractive or NOT to talk to someone who they think is bad for you, they are handing you the DO NOT CROSS tape! it's up to you to tape it and do as you please with it. You put up the tape and set boundaries for yourself like Ok Ok, i'm gonna talk to him, but i won't start to like him...talking won't hurt right? It's just talking. Then you BAM! you cross that boundary and you start to like him! But you don't admit it to yourself because c'monnn you said you wouldn't like him! you're better than that so nahhh u don't really like him, like him....u just think he's cool right? right. Then you say Ok Ok...i'll kiss him, but i won't sleep with him....that's fine right? kissing is innocent....Yeaaa. BAM! you are left in a room with this person and ur kissing and you end up in a bed! You tell yourself these bullshit LIES but you end up CROSSING the tape several times because you were curious and said "just a bit won't hurt" right?? WRONG! cuz once you cross one line, you gon' cross'em all! Stop telling yourself that this and that won't happen because you have control over the situation! just stop! like damn. But WHY....Why do you subject yourself to crossing boundaries when you KNOWWWW the consequences?...shit, you invented the damn consequences! WHY?? Is it because you have an adventurous nature and like to explore unfamiliar territory? Or are you just that damn stupid? I really hope it's the first one!

SOMETIMES though, because you are familiar with this type of situation, you escape without getting stung by the ivy! This tells you never to cross the path aagain! but you know yourself!

The point is, when you make a boundary, for GOD's Holy sake, DO NOT, i repeat, DO NOT cross that line! Unless you are well equipped to handle whatever will bite you in that grass!

peace!