where is the spark?

Chemistry, spark, tingling feeling, whatever you want to call it, it's what you look forward to when you start to see someone new or date someone or whatever. After you both get comfortable enough, one person, usually the guy, decides to be bold and initiate the first from of intimacy: the kiss. Now, there is a lot of pressure packed into the first kiss. It can determine a lot of things like if there will be another date, if this couple will ever get more intimate, if this will be a fling or something more promising, etc. It's a lot to bare for such a small gesture/act. If the first kiss is a bad one, one of the parties might decide to park that vehicle into the friend zone because they don't see themselves going anywhere. If the first kiss is passionate, hot and sexy, there might be a wedding in a few years. It's all relative though.

What is this spark i am talking about? what is this chemistry? Do you remember the last woman/man you were with? you felt like you could just talk to them about anything on your mind, no matter how embarrassing. You could be on the phone talking for hours and hours on end about nothing in particular. You couldn't wait to wake up in the morning just to read a "good morning beautiful" or "good morning handsome" or even a simple "good morning" from this person. You could go all day thinking about them and have to actively stop your brain from having thoughts of this person cross your mind. When you are in the same room with them, the attraction is like electricity or better yet, like two opposite poles of a magnet where no matter how far apart you are in a room, you are bound to attract. And when you do come together, and your skin happens to graze theirs, it's like a surge of current runs through your entire body. Like all you want to do is keep touching them (sounds weird but w/e). Then a moment in time comes when you actually kiss them and it's like you get dizzy and then you feel nervous and anxious and excited all at the same time. Like you have butterflies in your stomach. Okay maybe this is a little far-fetched and maybe only I have felt this but it DOES happen. With the right person, it WILL happen. anything can happen. This is the chemistry i'm talking about.
Anyway, when you have felt this with one person, you proceed to carry out a relationship with them. For some reason or another, the relationship does not work out....life!
But after the crying about it for a while, you get over it and get back into the dating thing.

You meet someone and they are great, with all the qualities you look for in a man. You talk, go on a few dates and then when it comes time to kiss, you kiss this person and.....blank. You don't feel anything. It's empty, plain and feels like you just kissed your brother. What does it take to have that spark which ignites the fire in a passionate relationship? What does it take to build that chemistry? Do both people have to be uncontrollably attracted to each other where they can't help but touch when around each other? And if this spark is not present, what is one to do? Does one just let go of a potential great relationship because they didn't feel anything? The whole thing baffles me. I just hope it when and if i do start dating again, i feel that thing with that man because without it, i won't be motivated to answer his calls or whatever else. I'm just sayin.

peace&love