Wedding Fever

It's the summer time. This is the time when your mailbox is flooded with wedding invitations especially if you live in the northeast area. It is warm outside and most couples want to take advantage of the weather to have the wedding of their dreams.

I am at (or getting to) the age where most of my peers will be making their way down the aisle. It is almost a bittersweet feeling as i step into the adulthood of responsibilities. The more wedding invites or pictures i see, the more i realize that some of the people getting married might have a serious case of "wedding fever". What do i mean by wedding fever? Wedding fever is the itch or need to have a wedding. Now, don't get me wrong here. I am happy for the people who are getting married and taking the next step in their relationship. It is just that i feel like some of these weddings happening are simply to put on a show.

What exactly is a wedding anyway?? It is defined by an online dictionary as the act or ceremony of marrying; nuptials.

This is how i feel about weddings. Weddings are BEAUTIFUL. I love attending them. I enjoy looking at the set-up of the wedding to the very last detail and analyzing how much this couple had to put down to afford this wedding. However, I feel as though a lot of young people are rushing to have their wedding in order to SHOW people their love. To SHOW that they too, can invite guests and have a ceremony. A SHOW.

Again, i'm not mad at this. To each her own. But i feel as though a lot of young couples are eager to have a wedding and put on this show. A lot of couples are eager to have a wedding. I know this girl who has a wedding dress and wedding ring websites bookmarked on her computer. She's not engaged yet but she's ready to have a wedding. A lot of women forget that the wedding is just the SHOW. It is what comes after the wedding, the actual marriage, which most people aren't ready for. Hence, the high divorce rate. Going to court and signing papers is also a wedding ceremony but people don't want to do this because it is less flashy.

Left to me, once and if i find someone i know i can spend my life with, i will ONLY have a wedding when i know i can afford it. When i say afford it, i mean literally go to the bank and insert my debit card to take out 50,000 dollars or whatever ridiculous amount it costs to have one of those things. Instead, I will march mine and my man's ass to the city hall, sign some papers and invite friends over for dinner and call it a night! People drive themselves into early debt for the ridiculous sake of putting on a show.

All i'm saying is, people shouldn't forget why a wedding ceremony exists in the first place. Don't forget that there is a life after the ceremony. Don't go taking out a loan because you want to wear a nice dress and eat some cake.

peace&love